So often we wish our time away.
We count down the minutes until bed time….
We count down the hours we have left in work….
We count down the days until the weekend….
We count down the weeks until the next big event and
We count down the months until we’re next on holiday.
We even joke about how time passes so slowly when your wishing it away; yet it passes so quickly when you want it to slow down.
Have you ever hit snooze on your alarm for 10 minutes yet it feels like only 10 seconds have passed and the buzzing sounds in your ears?
How can it be that two weeks on holiday feels as though you blink and it’s gone yet you have looked forward to it for 12 long months?
You will have heard the saying….
Time flies when your having fun!
Yes it does!
I can remember when my two kids (Summer who is nine and Ari who is 6 ) were babies. I would be so excited for them to hit their next milestone…. saying it will be easier when……. that I never stopped in the moment to enjoy the stage that they were at.
I wished the time away.
I was so wrapped up in the overwhelming world around me, the dramas, the problems, the worries, the nursery fees, that I never actually stopped.
I can remember crying at how hard life was. Even popping to the supermarket seemed hard. Yes I’m sure you’ve all be there…. two kids in a trolly eating their way through the contents, before you have even got to the checkout, throwing everything in so your trolly is overflowing yet you have nothing in for dinner for the week ahead, with a tantrum or two down each aisle.
I can remember Adam coming home from work and me handing the kids over and I would go and sit in the bathroom with my head in my hands crying with exhaustion thinking will this ever get easier? The house was a mess, I was snappy, irritable, the kids would cry, I thought I was going mental as I knew every word to peppa pig, I never had any makeup on and my new hair do was a constant bun ontop of my head, and my meals consisted of left over fish fingers and the odd crushed wotsit.
I can remember friends saying it won’t be long and they will be in school and you will have your time to yourself.
They were right. It wasn’t long before the time came for them to go to school….. and guess what I did?????
I cried. I didn’t want them
To go. I wanted time to stand still so they could stay at home with me. I wished I had cherished all those days we had at home together. I wished I could go back in time.
They were actually some of the best times of my life. How did I blink and this time had gone?
I want you to stop….. no matter how hard life seems…. I want to you stop in the moment and enjoy what you have!
We think we have all the time in the world yet the Years pass so quickly.
My mother (my grandma – it’s a Wigan thing) was the most incredible woman ever who taught me so very much.
I adored her. At 87 she would call and say leave the kids with me, she made dinner for us every week. She baked, she knitted, she sewed, she was our rock! She held the family together. She would call the house phone constantly and didn’t hesitate to give us the telling off she thought we needed from Time to time. I can remember us all joking about how she would be around forever.
I never in a million years thought she would go when she did, this is something I struggled with for a long time after she passed. I wished I had been with her more. I wished I had called round those few days before to pick up those cakes and tell her just how much I love her. What I would give for one more day with her.
My message to you is this.
Live life in the moment of what is now.
Yes look forward to the future but also cherish every single second of what you have. Love the moments…. and tell those who you love the most just how much they mean to you.
Do you want to look back on your life and have regrets?
Would you rather look back on your life and be able to say you had tried rather than I wish….?
Live in the moment…..
Love unconditionally ❤️
Every single day is a gift.
What are you going to do with yours?